Take it as it comes

A close girlfriend and I had a chat the other day and I asked whether her and her unofficial boyfriend of 3 months has ever had a serious talk about their status. She replied no and I proceeded to telling her that I admire girls who can bring up that topic with their men. Her however, thought the opposite and I asked her why.

"Cause so many girls are so caught up in figuring stuff out and I think not very many girls can just go with it. They're so worried about securing what they have. I'm happy with how things are now and I'm not really worried about what's to come. I just take it as it comes which is why I don't need to clarify anything."

Whoa. I thought about how true that was and how hard it is for girls to sometimes just go with it. To ignore the voices in your head, and the paranoia of securing something real etc. etc. She then asked me my rationale on my opinion. The way I see it, it's admirable for a girl to speak her mind whenever she has insecurities and doubts about her relationship. It's just as hard to bring up that sticky topic then not say anything at all because you never know what he's thinking.

We both agreed that it depends on how secure you feel in the relationship. In the end, it all comes straight down to security. Although I don't feel very secure at the moment, I am happy being with him and I've never been the type of girl to ask the number one question, "What are we?" And because I've never had the courage to ask, I do let it get to me sometimes and it does stress me out. So I've decided to take a leaf out of my friend's book and just learn to take it as it comes.

Love Always,
LL